Welcome to my piece of heaven
Hello I’m Gina Hardy, the founder of Conscious Union, here to help you create your very own conscious relationship. I am a relationship educator and coach, which in essence means I help you to learn about the deeper and often unconscious aspects that drive you to do and say the things you do in relationships. The things that create more conflict and keep you chained to repeat patterns.
I am also passionate about the self developmental path of Yoga and have been practising and teaching it for 18 years. I also offer spiritual guidance and healing tools to help you rediscover your true nature through accepting and releasing the past.
Here’s a view on the meaning of conscious couplehood…..
The lows
I’m not a counsellor or psychologist but I would say, an expert in falling in love and getting hurt. I have a 25 year portfolio of experience in love relationships, which I often fondly reflect on and am now the proud owner of. I don’t have any major sob stories to tell you, but it is true that I have allowed my heart to take a beating a few times.
My relationship with dad, a key role model, along with many happy memories, was essentially troubled. Dad was always with my mum, but he was a complex man who gambled and had a fiery temper. Life at home was a fertile ground for regular arguments especially with mum and that scared the life out of me on many occasions. I never really felt safe around Dad and not knowing what kind of mood he was going to be in, caused daily angst. All I wanted, was for him to approve of me and show me he loved me but sadly his needs seemed more important.
As I grew up I didn’t really understand men so I learnt by trial and error. My marriage ended 6 weeks after the big day and then after a string of relationships that were destined to fail because I had become so needy for love, I decided I really wanted to understand what was going on in me.
The turning point
I wanted to know why I was so strongly attracted to the “wrong” men who were non-committal and unsafe for the female heart. During a trip to India in 2007, someone said to me “You must become the person you want to attract Gina“. It was a revelation. So I was attracting men who were simply reflecting what I was giving out. I needed to change the recipe quick!
I set about self-education and reading all the books I could get my hands on about love and why we do the things we do. The result? It is ALL about me and “what we give out we get back”. Seems so simple, but how many of us really know what to do about it?
My Conscious Relationship
After 25 years of breaking my heart time after time, I finally learned the stuff I now want to share with you and have manifested my very own Happily Ever After. I have a conscious relationship.
I met Joel when I had lost the need to look for love. How many people say to you, “When you are not looking someone will come along”. Wise words indeed. It happened just like that after 2 years in happy singledom after I had completed my relationship education.
We had both spent over 15 years self developing and working with other people and so got right on with the business of healing and growth. We are both fully aware of ourselves and the fact that we are never going to be perfect. But in the “not being perfect”, we accept each other as we are today because that’s ok! Authentic people are good and bad, nice and nasty, it’s a normal cycle, the same as day turning to night. Conscious loving is about acceptance right here, right now and offering each other support and nurturing, beyond the bad and painful inner bits, to a place where past experiences can be let go of in a safe and loving space.
Joel and I are absolutely in love. It’s not a “head in the clouds” romance with blind spots, but a fully committed, down to earth relationship, where our number one desire is to want the best for each other and our relationship. Our journey together is a daily revelation and hot bed of learning, but we know that with kindness and compassion we can navigate anything that comes up, together.
My commitment to you
In 2008 I awakened to my life mission which is to teach you what I learnt. It was an incredible feeling to know that every minute of my heartaches in love were worth it and very healing to know I can help you understand the stuff I think you can’t know by just being in a relationship.
So, I am taking all of my relational experience, blended with the soothing balm of education and want to help you, first of all, discover who you really are and what makes you happy and then to help you move out of reaction into action by educating you in the art of creating your very own conscious and healthy relationships. The Law of Attraction states that whatever your thoughts, you attract to you what you radiate. Negative attracts negative and so on. So the starting point must be working on changing your point of attraction. The healthier you become, the healthier people you will attract on all levels.
My vision is to help create laboratories of healing for couples and soon to be couples, so that future generations will know the true meaning of happiness in authentic conscious love.
What’s on offer?
Educational Workshops / 1:1 help / Skype / phone calls
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My ingredients and inspiration
I am trained as an IMAGO Relationship Educator with IMAGO Relationships International. This work forms some of the essence of my teaching for couples and singles. It is different from any other form of relationship work I have ever experienced and is centred around the Intentional Dialogue tool, which helps people to connect within a safe and healthy space. Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen La Kelly Hunt have lovingly developed and created IMAGO over many years and as many have said, their work ”just makes sense”. IMAGO transformed my attitude and thinking about my relationships past and present and I am now enjoying the release from very old chains through the most amazing conscious relationship that I only once dreamed of.
Here Harville and Helen talk about the sacred meaning of relationship……
I am also inspired and use the powerful work of Hedy & Yumi Schleifer, who are the founder/creators of Crossing the Bridge. Their method of helping couples communicate in the right way, involves the 3 invisible connectors, the space, the bridge and the encounter of the souls. I have never before witnessed true love in action when all the “baggage” of issues and problems seem irrelevant. When one person actually “sees” the other in truth and openness, the mind takes a side step to allow the hearts to connect. It is beautiful work. And guess what, it’s available for all of us to experience because we are human!
Here Hedy explains what happens when we fall in love and that it is possible to fall deeper in love as the years pass!
Coming soon
My first book. It’s a humorous and poignant canter through some of the stories in my long relationship history along with some very useful tips at the end of every chapter to help you avoid repeating the same things I did. Stay tuned for publication dates.
